“But all is well”… and other lies

I was asked recently what was the trigger for my healing, allowed me to get out of the wheelchair in which I was and to reconnect with life.

By retracing my journey and stripping the different stages, I can say this:

This trigger was to recognize my flaws and weaknesses. The physical limits first. I was unable to read, write, paint or what it is. Instead of fighting these limits, I had to recognize that they were there. I had to admit my weakness.

This recognition then opened a path for me to recognize my emotional weaknesses. Then brought back the violence, physical and sexual abuse that I had experienced and realized that certainly, I had survived, but that I had drawn a large pack of false beliefs, limiting beliefs and that the facade that I Was built was only made of odds and ends, very banal elements and that I was not going to go very far.

I was the queen of "but everything is fine"

The mirage of perfection

In our modern society, we are often conditioned to seek perfection, whether in our physical appearance, our career or our relationships. The media and social networks amplify this constant pressure to reach unattainable standards. But what about the moments when we feel overwhelmed, broken, or simply human with all our imperfections?

In the external eyes, with my husband, we trained an adorable family, a solid couple. But I said that “everything is fine”. Even if my body was in a huge dilapidation, because it was crying the truth. Everything was not going well.

I wanted to be strong, the valiant woman who fights against the disease ... and incidentally my body, while refusing to see everything that did not go, the immense deleterious and abusive uneasiness and dynamic in which I lived.

Awareness

There is a moment when we must realize that perfection is only an illusory mirage. These masks that we wear to fulfill a role, we in the end. I had to agree to let the image I sent back to people and my own eyes.

By accepting our flaws and vulnerabilities, we embrace our authentic humanity. I realized that my own emotional and physical scars were integral parts of my being, and that they should not be hidden or ignored. By accepting them, I started to heal myself and to transform myself.

The power of limiting beliefs: free yourself from their channels

By browsing our healing path, it is essential to become aware of the power of limiting beliefs in our lives. These beliefs are these negative and self-destructive thoughts that tell us that we are not strong enough, talented enough, enough worthy of succeeding or that we have to work hard to deserve love or happiness.

They can come from our past experiences, the expectations of society or even critical interior voices. It is crucial to understand that these beliefs are only constructions of our mind, lies and that they can be changed.

By identifying these limiting beliefs, we can challenge and replace them with positive affirmations that strengthen our self-confidence. When we go beyond these beliefs that hold us back, we open the doors to unlimited healing and growth potential. So, free yourself from the chains of your limiting beliefs, and allow your true inner strength to shine.

Healing through art

As a resilience artist, I discovered a powerful means of expressing my vulnerability through art. Each pastel or pencil line was an affirmation of my reality, a celebration of my scars and my experiences. By putting my emotions on the canvas, I found the strength to face and transcend them. Art allowed me to express my deepest feelings, to share them and I hoped, one day could encourage others through my works.

The force of vulnerability

When we open up to our vulnerability, we show our courage and our authenticity. It requires a lot of courage to see the truth in the face and no longer hide behind the lies, the stories that we tell ourselves.

Exposing our flaws creates a deep link with others, because we realize that we are not alone in our struggles. They then become connection points with others, invitations to understanding and empathy. By sharing our stories, we also encourage others to accept their own vulnerabilities.

Acceptance and self -love

Accepting our flaws is an act of love towards ourselves. We deserve to be loved and respected for whom we are, with all our imperfections. Our inner child is finally listened to, heard and helped, we can then get out of the patterns in which we were stuck.

Vulnerability allows us to access a deep inner healing and to build a benevolent relationship with ourselves. By kissing our scars, we release the potential of a more fulfilled and more authentic life.

I encourage you to embrace your vulnerability and accept your flaws like the triggers of a healing and transformation process. Far from being weakness, vulnerability is an extraordinary force that connects us to our deep humanity. Whether through art, sharing stories or simply by giving love to yourself, you have the power to heal yourself and flourish.

You can't change your past, but you can create your future. A future outside the patterns followed so far, with hope.

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